I just thought I'd let you guys know what happened yesterday...
I went to the office, on time, and the first thing I did was to go to his office, sit down, and tell him, "Mr. C------, I appreciate that you gave me this job, and I've learned a lot, but what happened yesterday has made me very uncomfortable, and I don't feel I can continue working here."
He didn't apologize, but he was curiously nice. I asked him if he required any notice, and told him that I would be willing to stay a couple more days just to finish up any processing we still had in-house for the real estate closings. In return, he told me that if I would stay and do that, he'd give me a good recommendation for my job hunt.
Like I said, curiously nice.
Anyway, the day went on, and I worked as hard as I could to get stuff done, so I can get out of the office ASAP. He was nice today, but I'm not stupid, and I realize it's because he knows how he'll be screwed with no assistant. The moment he thinks I might be staying through the duration of the head assistant's absence, he'll turn again. I've seen him do it before with the head assistant - he yells at her, she gets upset, he comes to work and gives her flowers the next morning, and then it happens a week or so later.
And get this - one of the tasks he gave me yesterday was to print out ALL the delivered documents from the office software for our files. I think perhaps he realized that if I wasn't going to be there, he was going to have to deal with it. I made sure to label whether they were in TSR or commitment form for him, because he doesn't know the difference, and he gets angry and confused when he's looking at the same thing in different formats
Anyway, at the end of the day, when we reviewed all I had done, I made sure to remind him firmly that I was leaving, by saying, "When I *leave*, everything will be processed up, and the hardest thing you'll have to deal with is warehousing."
He tried to guilt-trip me by saying, "Well, and there's all the commitments and closing stuff..."
To which I replied, "Well, Mr. C------, I was never properly trained to do those, so you would be doing them whether I was here or not." *sweet smile*
(The truth is, I've never been trained to do them by his office, but from prior experience and observation, I know I can do them - I even asked if I could do them for our office at a time things were really crunched before the head assistant left, but I was told that I couldn't).
I feel a lot better. What he did was basically an attempt to rob me of my dignity and self-respect. He demeaned me, and beat me into the ground, and when I finally did break (and I admit it, I did), he then kicked me while I was down. The way I handled it yesterday, I feel like I took some of that back.
I know he's scared to death of not having an assistant to do his bidding, but hey, he's a grown man, and he should realize by now that there's consequences to his actions. If he's going to treat his employees like dirt, they're going to leave. He's just been spoiled rotten by his head assistant, who's a masochist that lets him scream at her and never ever questions it.